Are you someone who likes to grow? Do you constantly seek to
improve yourself and become better?
If you
do, then we have something in common. I’m very passionate about personal
growth. It was just 4 years ago when I discovered my passion for growing and
helping others grow. At that time, I was 22 and in my final year of university.
As I thought about the meaning of life, I realized there was nothing more
meaningful than to pursue a life of development and betterment. It is through
improving ourselves that we get the most out of life.
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After
1.5 years of actively pursuing growth and helping others to grow through my
personal development blog, I realize there is never an end to the journey of
self improvement. The more I grow, the more I realize there is so much
out there I don’t know, so much that I have to learn. For sure, there
is always something about ourselves we can improve on. The human potential is
limitless, so it’s impossible to reach a point of no growth. Whenever we think
we are good, we can be even better.
As a
passionate advocate of growth, I’m continuously looking for ways to
self-improve. I’ve compiled 42 of my best tips which might be helpful in your
personal growth journey. Some of them are simple steps which you can engage in
immediately. Some are bigger steps which takes conscious effort to act
on. Here they are:
1. Read a book
every day. Books are concentrated sources of wisdom. The more books you
read, the more wisdom you expose yourself to. What are some books you can start
reading to enrich yourself? Some books I’ve read and found useful are Think and
Grow Rich, Who Moved My Cheese, 7 Habits, The Science of Getting Rich and
Living the 80/20 Way. I’ve heard positive reviews for The Tipping Point,
Outliers and The Difference Maker, so I’ll be checking them out soon.
2. Learn a new
language. As a Singaporean Chinese, my main languages are English,
Mandarin and Hokkien (a Chinese dialect). Out of interest, I took up language
courses in the past few years such as Japanese and Bahasa Indonesian. I
realized learning a language is a whole new skill altogether and the process of
acquainting with a new language and culture is a totally a mind-opening
experience.
3. Pick up a new
hobby. Beyond just your usual favorite hobbies, is there something
new you can pick up? Any new sport you can learn? Examples are fencing, golf,
rock climbing, football, canoeing, or ice skating. Your new hobby can also be a
recreational hobby. For example, pottery, Italian cooking, dancing, wine
appreciation, web design, etc. Learning something new requires you to
stretch yourself in different aspects, whether physically, mentally or
emotionally.
4. Take up a new
course. Is there any new course you can join? Courses are a great
way to gain new knowledge and skills. It doesn’t have to be a long-term course
– seminars or workshops serve their purpose too. I’ve been to a few workshops
and they have helped me gain new insights which I had not considered before.
5. Create an
inspirational room. Your environment sets the mood and tone for you. If you are
living in an inspirational environment, you are going to be inspired every day.
In the past, I didn’t like my room at all because I thought it was messy and
dull. A few years ago, I decided this was the end of it – I started on a “Mega
Room Revamp” project and overhauled my room. The end result? A room I totally
relish being in and inspires me to be at my peak every day.
6. Overcome your
fears. All of us have fears. Fear of uncertainty, fear of public
speaking, fear of risk… All our fears keep us in the same position and
prevent us from growing. Recognize that your fears reflect areas where you can
grow. I always think of fears as the compass for growth. If I have a fear about
something, it represents something I’ve yet to address, and addressing it helps
me to grow.
7. Level up your
skills. If you have played video games before especially RPGs,
you’ll know the concept of leveling up – gaining experience so you can be
better and stronger. As a blogger, I’m constantly leveling up my writing
skills. As a speaker, I’m constantly leveling up my public engagement
abilities. What skills can you level up?
8. Wake up early. Waking up
early (say, 5-6am) has been acknowledged by many (Anthony Robbins, Robin
Sharma, among other self-help gurus) to improve your productivity and your
quality of life. I feel it’s because when you wake up early, your mindset is
already set to continue the momentum and proactively live out the day. Seth
recently wrote a waking up early series which you should check out to help
cultivate this habit.
9. Have a weekly
exercise routine. A better you starts with being in better physical shape. I
personally make it a point to jog at least 3 times a week, at least 30 minutes
each time. You may want to mix it up with jogging, gym lessons and swimming for
variation. Start your life handbook. A life handbook is an idea I
started 3 years ago. Basically, it’s a book which contains the essentials on
how you can live your life to the fullest, such as your purpose, your values
and goals. Sort of like your manual for your life. I started my life handbook
since 2007 and it’s been a crucial enabler in my progress.
10.
Write a letter to your future self. What do you
see yourself as 5 years from now? Will you be the same? Different? What
kind of person will you be? Write a letter to your future self – 1 year from
now will be a good start – and seal it. Make a date in your calendar to open it
1 year from now. Then start working to become the person you want to open that
letter.
11. Get out of your
comfort zone. Real growth comes with hard work and sweat. Being too
comfortable doesn’t help us grow – it makes us stagnate. What is your comfort
zone? Do you stay in most of the time? Do you keep to your own space when out
with other people? Shake your routine up. Do something different. By exposing
yourself to a new context, you’re literally growing as you learn to act in new
circumstances.
12.Put someone up
to a challenge. Competition is one of the best ways to grow. Set a
challenge (weight loss, exercise, financial challenge, etc) and compete with an
interested friend to see who achieves the target first. Through the process,
both of you will gain more than if you were to set off on the target alone.
13.Identify
your blind spots. Scientifically, blind spots refer to areas our
eyes are not capable of seeing. In personal development terms, blind spots are
things about ourselves we are unaware of. Discovering our blind spots help us
discover our areas of improvement. One exercise I use to discover my blind
spots is to identify all the things/events/people that trigger me in a day –
trigger meaning making me feel annoyed/weird/affected. These represent my blind
spots. It’s always fun to do the exercise because I discover new things about
myself, even if I may already think I know my own blind spots (but then they
wouldn’t be blind spots would they?). After that, I work on steps to address
them.
14.Ask for
feedback. As much as we try to improve, we will always have blind spots.
Asking for feedback gives us an additional perspective. Some people to approach
will be friends, family, colleagues, boss, or even acquaintances, since they
will have no preset bias and can give their feedback objectively.
15. Stay focused
with to-do lists. I start my day with a list of tasks I want to complete and
this helps make me stay focused. In comparison, the days when I don’t do this
end up being extremely unproductive. For example, part of my to-do list for
today is to write a guest post at LifeHack.Org, and this is why I’m writing
this now! Since my work requires me to use my computer all the time, I
use Free Sticky Notes to manage my to-do lists. It’s really simple to use
and it’s a freeware, so I recommend you check it out.
16.Set Big Hairy
Audacious Goals (BHAGs). I’m a big fan of setting BHAGs. BHAGs stretch you
beyond your normal capacity since they are big and audacious – you wouldn’t
think of attempting them normally. What are BHAGs you can embark on, which
you’ll feel absolutely on top of the world once you complete them? Set them and
start working on them.
17. Acknowledge
your flaws. Everyone has flaws. What’s most important is to understand
them, acknowledge them, and address them. What do you think are your flaws?
What are the flaws you can work on now? How do you want to address them?
18.Get into
action. The best way to learn and improve is to take action. What
is something you have been meaning to do? How can you take action on it
immediately? Waiting doesn’t get anything done. Taking action gives you
immediate results to learn from.
19.Learn from
people who inspire you. Think about people you admire. People who
inspire you. These people reflect certain qualities you want to have for
yourself too. What are the qualities in them you want to have for yourself? How
can you acquire these qualities?
20.
Quit a bad habit. Are there any
bad habits you can lose? Oversleeping? Not exercising? Being late? Slouching?
Nail biting? Smoking? Here’s some help on how you can quit a bad habit
21.Cultivate a new
habit. Some good new habits to cultivate include reading books
(#1), waking up early (#8), exercising (#9), reading a new personal development
article a day (#40) and meditating. Is there any other new habit you can
cultivate to improve yourself?
22.
Avoid negative people. As Jim Rohn
says, “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”.
Wherever we go, there are bound to be negative people. Don’t spend too much of
your time around them if you feel they drag you down.
23.
Learn to deal with difficult people. There are
times when there are difficult people you can’t avoid, such as at your
workplace, or when the person is part of your inner circle of contacts. Learn
how to deal with them. These people management skills will go a long way in
working with people in the future.
24.
Learn from your friends. Everyone
has amazing qualities in them. It’s up to how we want to tap into them. With
all the friends who surround you, they are going to have things you can learn
from. Try thinking of a good friend right now. Think about just one quality
they have which you want to adopt. How can you learn from them and adopt this
skill for yourself? Speak to them if you need to – for sure, they will be more
than happy to help! Start a journal. Journaling is a great way to gain
better self-awareness. It’s a self-reflection process. As you write, clarify
your thought process and read what you wrote from a third person’s perspective,
you gain more insights about yourself. Your journal can be private or an online
blog. I use my personal development blog as a personal journal too and I’ve
learned a lot about myself through the past year of blogging.
25.
Start a blog about personal development. To help
others grow, you need to first be walking the talk. There are expectations of
you, both from yourself and from others, which you have to uphold. I run The
Personal Excellence Blog, where I share my personal journey and insights on how
to live a better life. Readers look toward my articles to improve themselves,
which enforces to me that I need to keep improving, for myself and for the
people I’m reaching out to.
26.
Get a mentor or coach. There’s
no faster way to improve than to have someone work with you on your goals. Many
of my clients approach me to coach them in their goals and they achieve
significantly more results than if they had worked alone.
27.
Reduce the time you spend on chat programs. I realized
having chat programs open at default result in a lot of wasted time. This time
can be much better spent on other activities. The days when I don’t get on
chat, I get a lot more done. I usually disable the auto start-up option in the
chat programs and launch them when I do want to chat and really have the time
for it.
28.
Learn chess (or any strategy game). I found chess
is a terrific game to learn strategy and hone your brainpower. Not only do you
have fun, you also get to exercise your analytical skills. You can also learn
strategy from other board games or computer games, such as Othello, Chinese
Chess, WarCraft, and so on.
29.
Stop watching TV. I’ve not been
watching TV for pretty much 4 years and it’s been a very liberating experience.
I realized most of the programs and advertisements on mainstream TV are usually
of a lower consciousness and not very empowering. In return, the time I’ve
freed up from not watching TV is now constructively used for other purposes,
such as connecting with close friends, doing work I enjoy, exercising, etc.
30.
Start a 30-day challenge. Set a goal
and give yourself 30 days to achieve this. Your goal can be to stick with a new
habit or something you’ve always wanted to do but have not. 30 days is just
enough time to strategize, plan, get into action, review and nail the goal.
31.Meditate. Meditation
helps to calm you and be more conscious. I also realized that during the nights
when I meditate (before I sleep), I need lesser sleep. The clutter clearing
process is very liberating.
32.
Join Toastmasters (Learn public speaking). Interestingly, public
speaking is the #1 fear in the world, with #2 being death. After I started
public speaking as a personal development speaker/trainer, I’ve learned a lot
about how to communicate better, present myself and engage people. Toastmasters
is an international organization that trains people in public speaking. Check
out the Toastmasterclubs nearest to you here.
33.
Befriend top people in their fields. These people
have achieved their results because they have the right attitudes, skill sets
and know-how. How better to learn than from the people who have been there and
done that? Gain new insights from them on how you can improve and achieve the
same results for yourself.
34.
Let go of the past. Is there any grievance or
unhappiness from the past which you have been holding on? If so, it’s time to
let it go. Holding on to them prevents you from moving on and becoming a better
person. Break away from the past, forgive yourself, and move on. Just recently,
I finally moved on from a past heartbreak of 5 years ago. The effect was
liberating and very empowering, and I have never been happier.
35.
Start a business venture. Is there
anything you have an interest in? Why not turn it into a venture and make money
while learning at the same time? Starting a new venture requires you to be
learn business management skills, develop business acumen and have a
competitive edge. The process of starting and developing my personal
development business has equipped me with many skills, such as self-discipline,
leadership, organization and management.
36.
Show kindness to people around you. You can
never be too kind to someone. In fact, most of us don’t show enough kindness to
people around us. Being kind helps us to cultivate other qualities such as
compassion, patience, and love. As you get back to your day after reading this
article later on, start exuding more kindness to the people around you, and see
how they react. Not only that, notice how you feel as you behave kindly to
others. Chances are, you will feel even better than yourself.
37.
Reach out to the people who hate you. If you ever
stand for something, you are going to get haters. It’s easy to hate the people
who hate us. It’s much more challenging to love them back. Being able to
forgive, let go and show love to these people requires magnanimity and an open
heart. Is there anyone who dislikes or hates you in your life? If so, reach out
to them. Show them love. Seek a resolution and get closure on past grievances.
Even if they refuses to reciprocate, love them all the same. It’s much more
liberating than to hate them back.
38.
Take a break. Have you been working too hard?
Self-improvement is also about recognizing our need to take a break to walk the
longer mile ahead. You can’t be driving a car if it has no petrol. Take some
time off for yourself every week. Relax, rejuvenate and charge yourself up for
what’s up ahead.
39.
Read at least 1 personal development article a day. Some of my
readers make it a point to read at least one personal development article every
day, which I think is a great habit. There are many terrific personal
development blogs out there.
40.
Commit to your personal growth. I can be
writing list articles with 10 ways, 25 ways, 42 ways or even 1,000 ways to
improve yourself, but if you’ve no intention to commit to your personal growth,
it doesn’t matter what I write. Nothing is going to get through. We are
responsible for our personal growth – not anyone else. Not your mom, your dad,
your friend, me or LifeHack. Make the decision to commit to your personal
growth and embrace yourself to a life-long journey of growth and change. Kick
off your growth by picking a few of the steps above and working on them. The
results may not be immediate, but I promise you that as long as you keep to it,
you’ll start seeing positive changes in yourself and your life.
I’d
love to hear your thoughts on this article or anything about personal growth.
Feel free to share your thoughts in a comment below and I’ll get back to you!
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